The Fires of Marriage Parents and In-Laws

Olivia Kompier March 17, 2017 -

ONE OF THE most emotionally charged topics in marriage is in-laws, which includes our own parents. Most Muslims feel conflicted between their spouses, their parents, or in-laws at some point.

Despite what we know to be right about our relationships in a fiqhî (Islamic legal) sense, this fire is possible, and probable, in spite of that knowledge. That’s because this fire can emerge even though we’ve done the right thing.

Why? Because emotions don’t always partner with what is right. Our parents, in-laws, or spouses can still feel upset when we try to do what is right or best. This is what makes this fire especially challenging.

Fighting Fires

Calming the fire of parents and in-laws doesn’t only mean executing the right decision, it means establishing relationships that prevent this fire from starting in the first place. And when it does flare up, quelling this fire requires that we know how to put it out fast, with minimal damage to all our relationships.

A man once asked a shaykh: “My shaykh, whom do I make happy first, my wife or my mother?” The wise shaykh smiled and said: “Akhî, my brother, you have to find a way to make them both happy.”

Now that is some good advice, and here’s why.

Causality

Let’s break this down so we can understand how this fire can manifest itself. First, we have the relationship between husband and wife. Then, we have the relationship between each spouse and their own parents. Finally, we have the relationship between each spouse and their respective in-laws. These are three different relationships that each spouse has to take care of, regardless of who their “obedience” is to in a fiqhî sense.

In reality, there is no hard and fast solution in human relationships. Applying a fatwa (legal ruling) in its technical sense is not the only means for taking care of each of these relationships, and ordinarily one cannot approach such relationships legalistically, by the letter of the law.

Both husband and wife have a responsibility to one another for taking care of the marriage, an obligation toward their own parents, and a duty to their in-laws.

Both spouses have to build up each of these relationships in the best way all the time without sacrificing any of the other relationships. We cannot ruin our marriage to please our parents. Nor can we sacrifice our parents for our spouse or our in-laws.

Taking care of one of these relationships can never come at the price of either of the others. When you look at it in this light of independent yet intertwined relationships, it is not surprising that this challenge is one that many people fail to meet. That is because it takes time, care, and emotional energy. It also takes maturity and proactivity.

Personal Baggage

Every person is different. As the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught us, human beings are like the diverse types of earth that Allah has created. Not only does this account for our differences in skin color and stature, it makes us of varying temperaments and personalities.

Most bad habits can be controlled, and everyone is capable of positive growth. But how Allah created each of us determines the habits we can easily control and the ones we find difficult to master.

Being forgiving comes naturally to some, while others have a tendency to bear a grudge. Some of us are unintimidated by confrontation. Others are anxious and easily controlled by others who are strong-willed. Some readily find happiness in life. Others are too needy and dependent on others to “give” them happiness.

When it comes to this fire of marriage—parents and in-laws—couples not only face the challenge of their own relationship and personal shortcomings, but they have to manage the temperaments and shortcomings of their parents and in-laws, as well. This array of relationships provides us many opportunities for a clash of personalities or a contest of wills. Consequently, this fire often turns into one hot mess.

Mother-in-Law Jokes Aside

The most infamous familial conflict is between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, with the husband in the middle. Fiqh (application of divine Law based on educated understanding) tells us, generally speaking, that a husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband.

This can create a sense of a tiered-hierarchy that cascades from the husband’s mother at the top, to the husband, to the wife. A wife’s fear in this gradation is that the husband’s mother will be a controlling woman, and that she will use her “power” to bend her son to her will and by extension control her daughter-in-law or sabotage the marriage.

From the mother’s perspective, the apprehension is that the daughter-in-law will be manipulative and make the son distant from his mother. As for the husband, his worry is that he’ll never escape having to choose between these two women, with no moment of respite.

Many of us are wedged right here. Should a man repeatedly acquiesce to his controlling parents if it’s causing damage to his marriage? At what point can a line be drawn that denotes acceptable requests from destructive neediness?

This may be emotionally difficult to discuss, and spiritually confusing, given the number and power of the ayât (verses) of the Quran and a ḥadîth (statements of the Prophet ﷺ) that edify and extol us with regard to the lofty status and duty we owe to our parents.

But what we must realize is that as thinking adults, we have a responsibility to establish healthy boundaries in all of our relationships, even ones for which we are greatly indebted, which is a part of a balance in relationships that the Quran and the Prophet ﷺ also teach us.

It is true that we have an enormous debt of gratitude and responsibility to our parents, especially to our mothers, whom even a lifetime of our service will never repay. In a spiritual accounting, we cannot disburden our hearts from the sacrifice of self and soul of our mothers on our behalf (and only with an arduous exertion and monumental contribution can we requite our fathers). But in the whirring vicissitude of life, everyone has limited availability and capability—and this is another reason why making duʿah for our parents is so crucial in payment of our deficits regarding them.

Multi-Directional Ties

When you married, you became responsible to your spouse, as well as to your parents—and, make no mistake, the only ones who are going to insure that your marriage is healthy and functioning is you as husband and you as wife.

Marriage, moreover, constitutes a far more volatile relationship than your relationship with your parents, because marriage is built on conditional love while the parent-child relationship is, if not unconditional, then at the furthest extent on that continuum. The damage can come far more swiftly and deeply in marriage than in the parent-child relationship, and it is far harder to reverse than are problems with parents.

This does not mean that you are to prioritize your husband or wife over your parents. But it does mean that you have a responsibility to your marriage that cannot be negated or suspended by what your parents ask of you. Your responsibility to the parental relationship, you and your husband or wife, does not obviate your responsibility toward one another. As the wise shaykh said, you must find a way to take care of everything, all the time with regard to duties due your parents and in the service of your husband or wife and your marriage.

New Boundary Lines

For many, marriage will occasion examining and thinking about boundaries with parents for the first time. Getting married calls upon us to transition from a child-adult relationship with our parents to an adult-adult relationship. Does setting boundaries mean shutting someone out? Of course not. Does setting boundaries mean being less dutiful or respectful? On the contrary, it should increase these senses in us.

Boundaries mean limits, and Allah has warned us repeatedly in the Quran to mind our limits: Thus these are the ordained limits of God. Then do not transgress them. For whoever transgresses the ordained limits of God, then it is such as these who are the wrongdoers (Sûrat Al-Baqarah, 2:229).

Recognizing limits in these relationships means understanding at what point your parents’ involvement, power, and demands upon you are checked by your relationship with your spouse. It’s about understanding where our parents’ space ends, and your husbands or wife’s space begins.

An adult-adult relationship basically calls upon you to be proactive and mature. First, you have to initiate positive contributions to your relationships with your parents. You probably don’t wake up and see your parents every day now (if you are not living with them) or come home from school to their house. You are likely at some point to live away from them and make decisions that often don’t involve them. You are independent. You have left the nest, or at the least, you have started a nest of your own.

Out of the Nest

So in what ways can you fulfill your responsibility of good treatment to your parents when you’re no longer in their home? Perhaps you need to call them daily or visit them weekly. It may mean that when you do see them, you have to go the extra mile to show your love for them by sitting with them and actively talking to them, or by bringing Mom a dozen roses or complimenting her cooking. Maybe you’ll call them and ask for their advice on matters, even if your main intention is to emphasize to them their continued importance and the value of their participation in your life.

Parents often become controlling or demanding because they feel abandoned when the child gets married. This may be an immature reaction. Some parents handle their child’s independence more gracefully than others. But there’s nothing that you can do about this except fulfill your responsibility to them in the hope it will allay their sense of loss.

Flames of Neediness

If you have parents that, for whatever reason, never seem to “get over” their child’s flight from the nest, then as adults with responsibilities toward your marriage, as well as your parents, you have to recognize when your parents’ anger or displeasure with you is a fault in them and not with you.

Such parental emotions may stem from unreasonable expectations, a needy personality, or their own unhappy marriage. A maritally dissatisfied parent may have coped by seeking steady fulfillment through his or her relationship with you, an overcompensation in that parent-child relationship, in other words.

Your exit from your parents’ household into marriage may leave behind (even if you haven’t actually left the home) a still unhappy mother or father (or both). Life’s emptiness becomes all the more palpable and inescapable for this parent.

Transitioning into an adult-adult relationship with your parents may be the first time you have had to acknowledge your parents’ flaws or marital problems. This is true for many of us, and it can be very difficult, for we have often lived in denial of the shortcomings of our parents that have prevented them from setting healthy boundaries in their relationships with us.

The absence of proper boundaries makes transgressions inevitable. Allah has said in the Quran that spouses are like garments for one another (Sûrat Al-Baqarah, 2:187). Our scholars have commented that one of the functions of a garment is to cover over faults. Thus husbands and wives are not to expose the faults of one another.

Unveiling the faults of one’s spouse to one’s parents kindles the conflagration of parents and in-laws. A wife’s mother may pry into her daughter’s marriage, or a husband’s mother into his, to find out what shortcomings her daughter-in-law, or son, possesses. (Fathers can do this too.) The inquiries may be well-intentioned, such as wanting to offer sincere advice, or it may stem from an aberrant desire to see the son or daughter-in-law in a bad light.

Whatever the case may be, a spouse should never reveal a husband’s or wife’s faults to the parents. This is part of the covenant of marriage, and it is an example of where our parents’ space is limited by the space belonging to our spouse.

Or, a parent may try to guilt-trip the adult child into exposing a spouse by accusing the adult child of being mistrustful or secretive. You should do your utmost to calmly extinguish your mother or father’s blame of your spouse and to make clear your love for your parents. But you must also adhere firmly to the boundary that separates the relationship with your parents from the relationship with your spouse, even if your mother or father is not happy with this.

A parent living with a couple (or vice-versa) provides similar challenges. Sharing space with another adult is taxing on a marriage, and one of the spouses may start acting in a demanding or angry way because of feeling that the marriage is suffering from a lack of space (though this is not a good way to cope with this arrangement. Spouses should always express themselves without immature, reactive behavior).

Here’s a bad way to manage this situation: Treat the parent in a resentful way. Here’s another: Invalidate the frustrated spouse’s feelings.

The best way to behave in this circumstance is for the adult child to continue to take care of the parent in the best way possible, irrespective of the spouse’s resentfulness, and then set aside special time each week for the couple to spend away from the house, in addition to allowing the frustrated husband or wife the opportunity to express themselves openly—to their spouse, not to their parent-in-law.

As long as these boundaries go unestablished (whereafter you will need to fine tune them) relationships with in-laws will be particularly troubling. Moreover, until husbands and wives establish an adult-adult relationship with their own parents, their spouses will never be free to establish adult relationships with them.

The golden rule is no emotionally reactive conduct, neither with parents or spouse (or children, for that matter). Rather, you should behave calmly and respectfully, but within safe boundaries that protect the marriage.

Spouses depend on one another to establish this type of adult-adult relationship with their respective parents, so that they themselves can feel secure in establishing a meaningful and mutually satisfying relationship with the mother- and father-in-law.

Balancing Responsibilities

If a spouse merely continues the child-adult relationship with the parents, then the spouse cannot find a “place” with the in-laws, because children don’t have husbands and wives. The spouse will always feel insecure about the in-laws violating the marital space, leading to protective, anxious, or angry behavior in an effort (albeit misguided) to have a means of self-protection.

This reactive behavior by the spouse toward the in-laws is guaranteed to start a fire, but the real problem lies with the biological child and his or her parents. Spouses will not feel the need to be protective of the marital space if they are confident that the partner is already protecting it, provided the spouse is sufficiently mature.

In the end, both husbands and wives have to strike a balance between taking care of their marriage and taking care of their parents. Each relationship will present challenges, and no marriage is without an occasional fire. Couples have to realize that just as they are not responsible for the happiness of their spouse in their relationship with one another, they are also not responsible for their parents’ happiness. That’s right: No one can make any other human being happy.

Win-Win Arrangements

As a husband or wife, you bear a divine responsibility to your parents based on what Allah has revealed through His Book and His Messenger ﷺ. You owe them good treatment, respect, and kindness. It is your sacred duty to fulfill these obligations to the best of your ability.

Yet whether you can always satisfy your parents in seeking to accompany, serve, and please them—that is not something in your control. You are obliged to do your utmost in the service and love of your parents, but without transgressing the boundaries of your solemn marital covenant.

So it is just as the shaykh we spoke of at the outset taught his inquiring and divided student. The wise Muslim knows that the well being of one divinely ordained relationship must not, and, in fact, cannot come at the expense of any other sacred connection.

Your only choice, then, is to become mature and proactive in nurturing your bonds of kinship, for that is when you shall find a way to take care of all your vital relationships with spouse, parents, and in-laws.

Olivia Kompier

Olivia is a married homeschooling mother of four who converted to Islam at the age of 16 in the month of Ramadan. She has gone on to attain a B.A. in Islamic Studies, is a Certified Screamfree Marriage / Parenting Consultant, and is a certified lactation consultant.

388 Comments

Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
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- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Gwen Boucher
March 28, 2016 - - 2:49 pm
I have heard many sisters complain of this. “The men use the Quran against us”,”His mother is the boss even in our house”,”He whipped me”. Yes, in an un-Quranic pseudo application of Surah 4:34. Fortunately for American new convert Muslim women, most of them become aware of this cultural issue before marriage. There are good Muslim men but sisters be careful.
Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 3:46 pm
  for real. We need to be armed with knowledge before entering into an intercultural marriage.
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:36 pm
  better if u armed with a kind husband…for kindness is d cornerstone of islam, not male chauvinism.. and I’m reminded of Omar , the conqueror of persia n egypt, who yet was submissive to his wife so much that a sahabi who went to see Omar to complain of his own wife, deferred complaining when he saw Omar , being given a dressing down.
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
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- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
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- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
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- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
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- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
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- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
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- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
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Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:11 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:58 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you. I will buy this book inshallah.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:58 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you. I will buy this book inshallah.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:58 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you. I will buy this book inshallah.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Fayaz Moosin
March 28, 2016 - - 5:23 pm
ive been in the thick of it.; look in all situations for what’s just; your father in law gave his daughter to u to be looked after not dominated….Indeed a woman is to b treated with liberty for thats how the prophet treated his quite quite different wives. Let not some male chauvinist p tell u any differently..
Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:30 pm
  no matter what anyone claims as Islamic, just simply look into to seerah…..The answers always there.. Khadija , an older woman for a wife; Ayesha a younger, prettier desirable wife , who yet had to play second fiddle in terms of his loving memory, mind u of Khadijah !; thats smacks of fidelity. etc etc.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:32 pm
  Absolutely! The seerah has really guided me through so much ugliness and doubt. Alhamdulillah
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:53 pm
  Theresa Corbin Seerah? This is a word I have not heard before. I must learn more, but at 69 Allah SWT knows that I will not have a husband.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:55 pm
  Seerah means the life, or path, of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I am sure you have read much about his life, you just only heard the term in English.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:56 pm
  Seerah, are you meaning Hadith? There is so much that I do not know.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:57 pm
  No not hadith, but biography.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:58 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you. I will buy this book inshallah.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 5:59 pm
  Try “the sealed nectar”. It is very good.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:07 pm
  Theresa Corbin I so admired Muhammad PBUH that I took the name of “Khadijah” as my Islamic name. I was going to make that my legal name but in light of what is going on now am fearful of it. Inshallah, I will still do it but after much Dua.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:09 pm
  You don’t need to take an Islamic name. It is not a requirement or even a practice of the companions. But if you like Khadija, and wish to have that name, I will make dua for you that you find blessings in it.
  Reply
- Gwen Boucher
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:11 pm
  Theresa Corbin Thank you.
  Reply
- Theresa Corbin
  March 28, 2016 - - 6:13 pm
  you are most welcome
  Reply
- Fayaz Moosin
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:24 pm
  Try muhammed by martin lings..also.. more detailed stuff .
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Sodiq Omoola
March 28, 2016 - - 7:51 pm
A husband’s “duty” is to his mother, while a wife’s “obedience” is to her husband. Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye Tohib Adejumo
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- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:53 pm
  A husband’s duty is to his wife. Treating one’s mother with respect and kindness is obligatory.
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
  I have a short story about this issue.
  Reply
- Hiba Howard
  March 28, 2016 - - 10:10 pm
  Tohib Adejumo Perfect!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 28, 2016 - - 11:36 pm
  Sodiq Omoola don’t start ooo. Tohib Adejumo can you say that again?
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:45 am
  Well then he should not covet another man’s daughter who he has no “duty” to !
  Reply
- Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:47 am
  We have a duty to every single creation. Every!
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Folake Jalilah Hermione Kofo-Idowu pls louder. Thanks!
  Reply
- Tohib Adejumo
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Story coming this week. In shaa Allah
  Reply
- Rahmah Ummul Ibtisam Aderinoye
  March 29, 2016 - - 9:48 am
  Can’t wait Tohib Adejumo
  Reply
Tohib Adejumo
March 28, 2016 - - 7:54 pm
I have a short story about this issue.
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
- Shegufta Tahsin Upama
  March 29, 2016 - - 12:52 pm
  What’s the TLDR; version?
  Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
- Shegufta Tahsin Upama
  March 29, 2016 - - 12:52 pm
  What’s the TLDR; version?
  Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
- Shegufta Tahsin Upama
  March 29, 2016 - - 12:52 pm
  What’s the TLDR; version?
  Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
Reply
Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
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Mashruba Tasnim
March 29, 2016 - - 9:00 am
Shumon Ibrahim Shegufta Tahsin Upama
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Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
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Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Ann Marie Lambert Stock
March 29, 2016 - - 9:25 am
In my experience, l have found that the husband needs to keep the secrets of the house just like the wife. Problems arise when either one tells their family everything. They both should defend and support each other. Only when problems become huge, do we need to bring the family including mom on board. This has worked great in my family. We have avoided problems as a couple and as in laws by giving space and respecting boundaries
Reply
Alta Sacra
March 17, 2017 - - 3:10 pm
Yes. Healthy boundaries, FTW! I don’t live near my MIL and don’t have any difficult scenarios in this regard, but “duty” definitely doesn’t mean allowing a person to control your actions no matter what, as some people interpret it.
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Benevolent Filantropsson
March 18, 2017 - - 11:51 am
No boundaries.
Or same like his parents’ boundaries were with him when he was a NEEDYCLINGY kid.
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Bianca Mura
March 22, 2017 - - 1:41 am
Maybe it’s time to educate the mothers. When her son get married he gets his own life and she has nothing to do with his (married) life . Being respectful to your parents, in this context, the mother, is totally different and unacceptable to be controlled by the mother.
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Mandy Zobaidey
March 22, 2017 - - 1:45 am
It’s unbelievable how many people are suffering and have complained about this, this to me is a deal breaker itself….
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Mandy Zobaidey
March 22, 2017 - - 1:45 am
How can we post this on the group Suzy Dwaik
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Mandy Zobaidey
March 22, 2017 - - 1:45 am
Let’s start a discussion ?
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Amina Al-ramadna
March 22, 2017 - - 2:27 am
The problem is hipocracy. Arab men consider in general all women to be with half a brain except their mothers the Janaa is under their feet. This is a cultural and educational issue.
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The Fires of Marriage | Fire #2 – Parents and In-Laws

Fighting Fires

Causality

Personal Baggage

Mother-in-Law Jokes Aside

Multi-Directional Ties

New Boundary Lines

Out of the Nest

Flames of Neediness

Balancing Responsibilities

Win-Win Arrangements

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