Wishing for Death

ANAS RELATES THAT Allah’s Messenger said, “One of you should not wish for death because of a difficulty that has affected him. If he must [say something], then let him say, ‘Allahumma, aheenee maa kaanatil hayaatu khairan lee, wa tawaffanee  idhaa  kaanatil  wafaatu khairan lee.’ (Allah, give me life…

Perfect Justice Between Wives

Allah says, “You will never be able to do perfect justice between your wives, even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them leaving the other suspended [between divorce and marriage]. If you do all that is…
Persecution of the Previous Believers

Persecution of the Previous Believers

Ibn Mas‘ūd related that on the day of Ḥunayn, Allah’s Messenger favored some people [over others] in the distribution [of the spoils]. He gave to al-Aqra‘ b. Ḥābis one-hundred camels, to ‘Uyaynah bin Ḥiṣn, he gave a similar amount, and he gave to the other…
Muhasaba: On Being Honest with Oneself

Muhasaba: On Being Honest with Oneself

TO TAKE ACCOUNT of oneself, that is, to undergo honest self-criticism, is part of the Muslim practice of muhasaba, or self-inventory. According to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, to engage in muhasaba is to “assess and adjudge yourselves…
Heaven Beneath Her Heels

Heaven Beneath Her Heels

WHILE MASSAGING MY mother’s feet one night to help her sleep, I looked at the cracks and creases of her soles and said: “So heaven is under here?” She laughed me off but was ready to give me a long speech of…
Silence Is Bliss

Silence Is Bliss

SITTING AROUND IN a circle (it doesn’t have to be a circle) and talking is a universal pastime. Families gather round a meal (and if they don’t, they should) …and talk. Business people meet to review prior actions and present plans…and talk.…
know thy children

Know Thy Children

PARENTING IS BASED on the unequivocal truth that mother and father know best, whether it is for, or about, their children. If those who essentially bring us into this world are not endowed with that faculty, then who else could possibly be?…
Moms Who Love Too Little

Moms Who Love Too Little

THE BOND THAT a mother, especially a new mother, shares with her child is unparalleled. Most moms live and breathe according to their child’s needs, demands and wants. New moms get little to no sleep and they nibble on bites of anything…