One of the most beautiful verses in the Quran is when Allah describes for us what marriage is really all about:
It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her. [Surat Al-Tawbah, 9:178]
One of the foundations of being a mate to another individual is to provide that person with a strong sense of security; and that type of security can only be acquired through a genuine trust and a close bond. However, for most couples, we start out only with passion.
“As we arrived in town, I noticed that the small shops and sidewalks were so tidy—it was clear that these people took the time to care about those types of things; through their mannerisms and style you traveled through their streets and got a strong sense that they were proud of their neighborhood, that they had self-respect.
I felt a longing for that for our community, for us all to experience. I felt a deep sadness as well.
Self-respect and pride in our community is something that we, as Muslims,(at least for the most part) seem to sorely lack.
Our masajid are rarely as clean as they should be and their lawns rarely tidy. “Muslim owned and operated” grocery and retail stores are no better. And, although there are a few exceptions here and there, most are in disrepair due to simple neglect—including those that amazingly started out being newly renovated or were built brand new.”
“I want to first tell you, “I love you,” you are my family. I have not forgotten you.
It breaks my heart that you do not agree with my life choice, that you have chosen to reject me. If you do not agree with me, then at least respect my decision. If you only knew how difficult this decision was for me, how difficult it is to be a Muslim––especially a Muslim woman––in these times.
Did you ever try to imagine what kind of commitment it takes to be a Muslim? It is not as easy as you may think. I want to let you into my mind. I want you to look through my eyes, and just know — if only for a moment — how I have felt, what I have dealt with and what it can be like.”