5 Muslim men share their divorce experiences – of loss, the ongoing struggle, and redemption. Breaks a lot of stereotypes, definitely a must-read.
“Unfortunately, we are too used to assuming that all or most Muslim men involved in divorce are villains; while it is true that some Muslim men are, indeed, abusive (just as some non-Muslim men are), it is a fallacy to assume that every divorced Muslim man has a questionable background and should be viewed with suspicion. So too have we internalized, to our own detriment, the wrongful belief that men do not feel or should not express their vulnerabilities and emotions, and that a man’s strength is dependent upon his silence. Yet from the Sunnah of RasulAllah œ, we have ample evidence that even the greatest man in creation wept and smiled, grieved and celebrated, and sought comfort in times of turmoil.
Now more than ever, we as an Ummah must remember that the believers – men and women – are meant to be supportive of each other, ready to provide solace and encouragement, especially at our most difficult moments.”
“The divine wisdom of allowing couples to dissolve their marriages is obvious and essential to healthy community building. But disturbing statistics show an unprecedented rise in divorce among North American Muslims, and the collective community is not showing any signs of improvement because of it.
In her study, “Understanding Trends in American Muslim Divorce and Marriage: A Discussion Guide for Families and Communities,” Dr. Julie Macfarlane set out to collect quantifiable data relating to the increasing number of divorces in the North American Muslim community. Macfarlane, a Fellow at the Institute of Social Policy and Understanding and a professor in the Faculty of Law at the University of Windsor, (Ontario, Canada) received funding to research trends of American Muslim divorce from The Social Science and Humanities Research Council of Canada. An expert in dispute resolution and mediation, Macfarlane became increasingly interested in the topic of Islamic divorce amidst the heated public discussions and accusations of Shari‘ah Law “infiltrating” the legal systems in the United States and parts of Canada.”